Dear Daddy, I have a problem with my friend. I just can’t seem to get through to them that I love them. It feels like no matter what I do or say it just bounces off them. It hurts me because I love them so much.
Daddy: I remember when I used to play Guitar. The tips of my fingers on my left hand became hard and callused as I pushed down on the strings.
The more I played the harder my fingers became.
Playing was painful at first but as the calluses grew thicker the pain lessened.
This is what happens with the heart too, the place where we can give and receive love. Over the years our heart too can become callused and hard.
We build up layers to protect ourselves.
Many years ago I spoke to a friend of mine called Ezekiel these words
‘A new heart I will give you, and a new spirit I will put within you; and I will remove from your body the heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.’ Ezekiel 36:26.A new heart is a gift, but your friend must be willingly to receive the gift and this requires vulnerability.
Be consistent, be loving, and of course be vulnerable yourself.